grief

on the passing of a friend*

Posted on April 5, 2015
by Lance

Wednesday night, and Dianne and Doreen were at our house rehearsing for a gig at His Place. We had finished up and were standing in the kitchen talking. Bo was...

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grief journal – why?

Posted on August 30, 2019
by Lance

I’ve decided to try to keep a very loose day-by-day “grief journal” of my loss. One of the things I immediately did when Jackson passed was to look for some...

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August 30: Day One

Posted on August 30, 2019
by Lance

Jackson is gone. He was awake this morning when T came downstairs but his breathing was labored, deep and slow and he passed just before 8a. T came upstairs and...

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August 31: Day Two

Posted on August 31, 2019
by Lance

I managed a little sleep. Really, I wish I could just stay asleep - it doesn’t hurt there. An empty day stretching out ahead of me. What do I...

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September 2: Day Four

Posted on September 2, 2019
by Lance

Awake early again but slept better than the last couple of nights. More (quieter) tears this morning - I tried to avoid reading the new FB comments on yesterday’s post...

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September 3: Day Five

Posted on September 3, 2019
by Lance

Yesterday morning wasn’t as bad. I cried when reading some of the FB comments (that are stillcoming, even if at a trickle) but it wasn’t a convulsive sobbing attack like Sunday....

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September 4: Day Six

Posted on September 4, 2019
by Lance

More quiet tears this morning as I reply to (probably) the last of the condolence messages on FB, messenger and email. It’s so quiet in the house now...

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September 5: Day Seven

Posted on September 5, 2019
by Lance

Not over it yet. I don’t know what the trigger was this morning - I had to put the trash out by the curb and Jackson’s old filthy plastic dish...

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